Martine's Hand-book of Etiquette, and Guide to True Politeness by Arthur Martine

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By Margot Jones Posted on Jan 2, 2026
In Category - Self-Help
Martine, Arthur Martine, Arthur
English
Ever wondered how people in the 1800s navigated social landmines without accidentally sparking a duel or committing a major fashion faux pas? This book is your time machine ticket. It's not just about which fork to use; it's a survival guide for a world where your reputation could be destroyed by a poorly timed visit or an incorrectly folded calling card. The real conflict isn't in a plot—it's the constant, hilarious tension between the absurdly strict rules of 'polite society' and the very human desire to just, you know, live without causing a scandal by wearing the wrong gloves to a ball. It’s surprisingly dramatic!
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Forget novels—the real drama in 1866 was figuring out how to behave. Martine's Hand-book of Etiquette isn't a story with characters, but a manual for life in Victorian America. It lays out, in incredible detail, the rules for everything: how to introduce people, how to write letters (with exact formatting shown!), how to behave at the dinner table, and even how to properly pay a social visit. The 'plot' is the reader's own journey through a maze of social expectations, trying to avoid embarrassment at every turn.

Why You Should Read It

This book is a goldmine. Sure, some advice is hilariously outdated (tips on managing your servants, anyone?), but so much of it reveals what people truly valued: respect, consideration, and making others feel comfortable. Reading it, you realize that while the specific rules change, the core goal of etiquette—smooth, kind social interaction—hasn't. It's also laugh-out-loud funny in parts, giving you a direct line to the daily anxieties of our great-great-great-grandparents.

Final Verdict

Perfect for history lovers, fans of shows like Bridgerton or The Gilded Age, and anyone who enjoys a good, quirky primary source. It's not a page-turner in the traditional sense, but it’s a fascinating and often entertaining piece of social history. You'll never look at a formal dinner party the same way again.



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Lisa Wilson
5 months ago

After hearing about this author multiple times, it challenges the reader's perspective in an intellectual way. A true masterpiece.

Betty Davis
1 year ago

After hearing about this author multiple times, the depth of research presented here is truly commendable. A valuable addition to my collection.

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